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Female Orgasm - Sex Tips
The female orgasm can seem like a highly elusive goal at times, and here I hope to shed some light on myths and realities concerning it. The female orgasm is a joyous experience. While women can achieve an orgasm through masturbation, use of a vibrator, partner stimulation, penetration – on the rare occasion, or the G-spot, some women have never had an orgasm. There is no need to feel ashamed of this; this can be cured. After all, the most important sex organ in your body is the brain!
Your brain is the master of your sex drive. Women may begin to feel that there is something wrong with their bodies that they have not achieved an orgasm. You can begin to feel like what is wrong with me? Is my vagina broken? This is not the case. For some women it will take some training to teach your body how to orgasm. It is a good idea to masturbate and bring yourself to orgasm, rather than expecting your partner to teach you how. Once you know how to push your own buttons you can communicate this to your partner.
Lesson One
Set the mood for yourself. Just because you are alone doesn’t mean you shouldn’t entertain yourself. Light a candle. Take a hot bath. Get some incense going and lay back on your bed to enjoy the magnificent creature that you are. Nothing is sexier than feeling good about your body and loving yourself just the way you are. Women come in all shapes and sizes and people appreciate the differences; it spices things up. You can undress in front of the mirror and slowly touch your body. By thinking of yourself as sexy you will feel more confident and then you will start to feel even sexier: it is a viciously hot, steamy cycle of self-love.
Lesson Two
Arousal takes time. You cannot expect your body to see a naked man and be instantly prepared for penetration. A woman can take anywhere from mere minutes to 45 minutes to reach the level of arousal needed for an orgasm. This means taking the time to explore all parts of the body: touch the legs, inner thighs, the small of the back, undersides of the beasts, nape, and everywhere in-between. There are many erogenous zones on the human body and by gently exploring you will find many ways to arouse yourself. While you are listening to your body’s desires allow your mind to wander over anything you think is sexy. Nothing is off limits: never censure your inner desires. Fantasies are make-believe and you don’t have to feel wrong if they don’t coincide with what you think is moral. (There are many fantasies on the main page for inspiration. Enjoy!)
Lesson Three
There are body changes that can signal that you are becoming aroused. Do not focus on these signs if you are masturbating alone; however, your partner may want to take note of these signs to let them know if they are doing the right things for you. When aroused the genitals of a woman will go from pink to a deep red or purplish color as it swells with blood. The vagina will become lubricated – this is a very, very important. You should also notice that the labia are puffing out. They will move away from the vaginal opening as they grow to three times their normal size. When a woman is highly aroused you may see a sex flush that spreads from her throat and belly to her breasts.
Lesson Four
There is no right or wrong way to orgasm. Most women will orgasm from clitoral stimulation. When stroking the female love-nest be sure to take your time. There needs to an element of suspense by touching the inner thighs - gentle teasing does wonders. You want to lightly run your fingers over the folds of the labia from top to bottom. Part the lips and run your finger up to her clitoris. Every woman’s clitoris can handle different amounts of pressure. Try touching it from above the clitoral hood that way you aren’t directly rubbing it. This kind of pressure from the sides of the clitoris combined with swift movements back and forth over it can be highly pleasurable.
Lesson Five
Never jump the gun and start intercourse before at least 20 minutes of foreplay, at least! Once you get going and you are finding your rhythm don’t fall into the trap of the jackhammer. Most of us have been there. You are hoping for fireworks and then he starts just pounding you. This is only acceptable when you have set that kind of fast pace or you are so fucking crazy mad from the hot sex that you have soaked the bed. The jackhammer done wrong is an orgasm and overall lust killer. It hurts. So take your time. Slow pushin’ is terribly romantic.
Now as stated earlier most women don’t come from intercourse so you are going to want to continue clitoral stimulation with intercourse.
These are all the handy words for now. Let me know if you have any thoughts or other methods that you like to get you off. Sexfantasies101@yahoo.com
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